Adoption Birth Plan

Yes, you can build an adoption birth plan.  Our Adoption Doulas are here to help.


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All of the decision making, planning, educating and preparing all lead up to the very emotional day of the hospital stay.

While it’s common [to worry] about this upcoming day, the more you are able to prepare and plan ahead, the more confident you will feel.

This is why your social worker will work closely with you to develop an “adoption hospital plan.”

Having a hospital birth plan set before you go into labor tells the [intending] family, the adoption agency and the hospital staff exactly what you want the hospital visit to look like. This enables everyone, especially you, to focus solely on the birth of your baby, as your wishes will already be known.

Similar to your adoption plan, you are also in complete control of your adoption hospital plan. You will have a number of questions to consider, including:

  • Will the adoptive family be in the delivery room?
  • Which members of your support system will be with you at the hospital?
  • Will your other child(ren) be at the hospital?
  • Will you spend time with your baby, and if so, by yourself, with the adoptive family, or both?
  • Who will hold your baby first?
  • Will you be admitted to the hospital confidentially?
  • Do you prefer a natural delivery or do you prefer using medication?
  • How much time do you want to spend with the adoptive family at the hospital?
  • Do you want pictures taken of you with the baby?
  • Do you want to leave the hospital before or after your baby?
  • Do you want to leave the hospital with or without the adoptive family?

You will begin talking about the hospital plan with your Adoption Specialist early on in the adoption process, but it is likely you won’t have a finalized hospital plan until a month from the delivery, as your preferences may change.

For example, during the match you will most likely become more and more comfortable with the adoptive family, and you may later decide that you do in fact want them in the delivery room with you, when previously that may have seemed uncomfortable.